1. Although you probably agree with some of each, which of these two descriptions sounds more like you? (Check one.)

Extraverted parents are energized by going, doing, interacting and experiencing. They are typically “in the know” and get children out to experience the world. Too much time isolated at home can make them feel shaky and ungrounded. They are uncomfortable with a child who is more of a loner and needs a lot of solitude.

Introverted parents are energized by solitude and time alone. They are observant, reflective and prefer one-on-one interactions. They know their children as individuals and provide them with “downtime” to unwind and recharge. Drained by too much interaction, they must guard their energy to make it through the day without exploding.

Sensing parents focus on details and specifics. They attend to practicalities and the here and now. Hands-on parents, they see to children’s basic needs and do concrete activities with them. They struggle to join in a child’s imagination or understand a child who is different. They can get stuck in a rut.

Intuitive parents focus on the big picture and possibilities. They quickly leap from facts to patterns and themes. They encourage children’s creativity and imagination, point up options and offer them choices. Drained by the nitty-gritty, they struggle to deal with practicalities and be realistic.

4. Which of the following two descriptions sounds more like you?

Judging parents are intentional parents who like structure, plans, limits, and order. They are adept at organizing day-to-day living so kids feel secure and don’t miss out. They aim to get things done, on time, and in the right way, but struggle to adapt to the unexpected, relax and have fun.

Perceiving parents take things as they come and keep their options open. They are flexible and spontaneous, and generally tolerant and accepting of children. They enjoy hanging out and can be relaxed about clutter, but struggle to do chores regularly and keep the house in order.